The Christmas holiday season is behind us now, and this time of year proves to be a time of sorrow for many people. Whether they are dealing with the loss of a loved one, a family crisis, an economic challenge or some other type of trial, the post-holiday season can be a tough time for many people.

One of the most difficult things to deal with this time of year is the feeling of loneliness. Even with so many opportunities for interaction with family and friends, some people are overwhelmed with the desperate feeling that they are all alone. The Bible has some teaching on how to deal with loneliness.

Paul the apostle was an old man, imprisoned and facing death when he wrote his second letter to Timothy. In chapter 4 of that book, he shows us how he dealt with loneliness.

First, he reached out to his friend and asked that he come to visit him (v.9). He didn’t sulk or pout because he had no company; he initiated the interaction. If you want to spend time with someone, pick up the phone or send them an email. Many times, all you have to do is ask for a visit and you will get one.

Second, Paul faced reality. He lamented the fact that some people had deserted him (vv.10, 16) and others had done him a great deal of harm (v.14). He didn’t try to sugar-coat the situation. He admitted the facts and dealt with them appropriately. Perhaps a big part of dealing with loneliness is facing reality. Only when you see things as they really are can you begin to make things better.

Third, he understood that he did have some good things going on in his life. His friend Luke was with him (v.11). Sometimes when we are lonely we tend to exaggerate our problems and forget to be thankful for those around us.

Next, Paul asked Timothy to do some specific things that would make his life better. Bring Mark with you when you come (v.11). Paul wanted some company. Also bring my cloak and my reading materials (v.13). It must have been cold and drafty in that prison, and the cloak would be much appreciated. Time would go by much faster if Paul had something to read. Don’t be afraid to ask someone to do you a favor and bring you someone or something that would brighten up your day.

Then, we see that Paul granted forgiveness to those who have wronged him (v.16). Lonely people often hold onto bitter grudges, which only makes their situation worse. Is there someone you need to forgive?

Finally, Paul remembered the presence of the Lord in his life and the strength that he received from God. He recalled the ways that the Lord had enabled him to serve, and he was thankful for that (v.17). And he looked forward to the day when the Lord would safely bring him into his kingdom (v.18). Are you feeling lonely? Remember that Jesus promises to be with you always. He will give you strength, and he will provide a place for you and your Christian loved ones to be together with him forever!